The Essential Role of a Support Team During Your Surrogacy Success

Surrogacy is a complex and deeply personal journey that involves much more than the surrogate herself. It’s a collective effort that requires the coordination and cooperation of multiple parties, including surrogates, egg donors, intended parents, medical staff, social workers, attorneys, and coordinators. While each of these roles is crucial, there’s an often underappreciated group that plays a pivotal role in the success of surrogacy: the support teams consisting of spouses, partners, family members, and friends.

These support people are fundamental in ensuring the process is smooth and emotionally supportive for the surrogate. But what exactly contributes to the effectiveness of a great support person in the context of surrogacy? Below are four factors that help provide the best support to a surrogate mother.

  1. Awareness and Understanding of Surrogacy

Understanding the intricacies of surrogacy is crucial, not just for the surrogate but also for her support network. Effective support people are well-informed about the surrogacy process, having spent time learning what it entails and what to expect. This knowledge is essential as it allows them to provide meaningful support and guidance throughout the surrogate’s journey.

  1. Open and Honest Communication

Communication is the cornerstone of any successful surrogacy journey. Support people play a critical role in maintaining open lines of communication with the surrogate, discussing how the surrogacy will impact the family, and preparing collectively for any changes or challenges that might arise. This openness ensures that everyone’s expectations are aligned and that the surrogate feels fully supported.

  1. Active Participation

Participation from support people can significantly improve the surrogacy experience. When surrogates and their primary supporters, such as spouses or partners, build a genuine connection with the intended parents, it fosters a stronger, more supportive relationship that benefits everyone involved. Often, support people accompany the surrogate to important appointments and transfers, demonstrating their commitment and involvement in the process.

  1. Providing Practical and Emotional Support

The journey of surrogacy can be emotionally taxing. Support people are invaluable in helping manage these emotional highs and lows. They also often assist with practical needs such as childcare and household tasks, allowing the surrogate to focus on her health and the successful outcome of the surrogacy.

At Shared Conception, we recognize and appreciate the vital role that these support teams play in the surrogacy process. Their dedication and commitment are what often transform a good surrogacy journey into a great one. We extend our heartfelt thanks to all the stellar support people who have partnered with us and encourage anyone considering surrogacy to ensure they have a robust support system in place. Our agency is here to help strengthen your surrogacy support network and guide you through every step of this remarkable journey. If you have any questions, please contact us at 713-622-1144 or through our website.

 

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Top Tips for Feeding Your Baby Born Through Surrogacy

woman pumping breast milkThere are various methods for a surrogate mother to provide breast milk for the baby. If the intended mother wishes to induce lactation, this is also an option. This process involves pre-delivery preparations such as hormone therapy, breast massage, and nipple stimulation.

Additionally, you can discuss with your surrogate the possibility of her pumping breast milk, which offers numerous benefits for both the baby and the surrogate after birth. Here are some guidelines for surrogates interested in pumping for the intended parents and the newborn, as well as for intended parents seeking breast milk for their new bundle of joy:

  1. Inform the hospital staff, including your nurse and the lactation consultant, about your intention to pump for the baby. Ideally, aim to start pumping within the first 30 minutes after birth, although this may vary depending on circumstances. Early initiation is crucial for both the surrogate and the baby.

  2. As the intended parent, consider the pros and cons of formula feeding versus breast milk early on to establish optimal digestion and provide essential nutrients for the newborn. Discuss with your surrogate whether she’s willing to pump breast milk for the baby after discharge from the hospital.

  3. Surrogates can begin preparing to establish a milk supply well in advance. Some experts suggest starting as early as six weeks before the baby’s arrival, while others recommend a couple of months beforehand.

  4. Utilize a high-quality, electric, hospital-grade breast pump with dual attachments for simultaneous pumping of both breasts. Your health insurance might cover the cost. Begin gradually with gentle massage and pumping sessions lasting 3 to 5 minutes a few times daily. Gradually increase to pumping for 10 minutes 6 to 8 times daily. Follow a lactation induction protocol and consider reaching out to your local La Leche League for additional guidance. La Leche League supports mothers and nursing parents and provides many great resources you can read prior to the delivery date.

  5. Don’t be disheartened by the amount of breast milk you initially pump. Pumping, even with low milk production, stimulates breast changes and increases the chances of success regardless of the initial output.

  6. Supplementing with formula is acceptable if the infant requires additional milk. It’s common to supplement with a mixture of formula and breast milk if there’s initially insufficient breast milk.

  7. Ensure access to a board-certified lactation specialist, preferably one familiar with the specific challenges faced by surrogates or intended mothers during pumping. Most hospitals have such specialists on staff, or you can seek assistance from organizations like the International Lactation Consultant Association or your local La Leche League.

  8. Remember to stay relaxed and enjoy the benefits of pumping if you’re a surrogate or the benefits of breast milk for your baby if you’re an intended parent.

Shared Conception is always here to provide more information. We strive to help surrogates and intended parents at every step of the surrogacy journey. If you have any questions at all, please contact us at 713-622-1144.

Celebrating Easter While Pregnant: Ideas and Tips

Easter is a time of renewal, hope, and joy, and if you’re currently on a surrogacy journey, it’s an extra special time to celebrate the new life growing within you. While surrogacy might bring some limitations, there are still plenty of meaningful and enjoyable ways to embrace the Easter spirit. Whether you’re experiencing the physical changes of pregnancy or navigating the unique journey of surrogacy, here are some ideas to help you celebrate Easter:

  1. Easter Egg Decorating Party: Gather your loved ones for a relaxed afternoon of egg decorating. Decorating eggs is a fun activity that doesn’t require much physical exertion and allows for plenty of creativity.
  2. Easter Brunch or Dinner: Treat yourself to a delicious Easter meal with family or friends. Indulging in good food and conversation is a wonderful way to celebrate the holiday.
  3. Easter Egg Hunt: Join in the fun of an Easter egg hunt, either as a participant or a spectator. Watching children search for hidden eggs can be entertaining and heartwarming.
  4. Relaxing Spa Day: Treat yourself to a day of pampering and relaxation at a local spa. Many spas offer prenatal massage services tailored specifically to the needs of expectant mothers, helping to relieve aches and pains. If you’re looking for ways to show appreciation for your surrogate—spa gift cards are a great option!
  5. Enjoy Nature: Take advantage of the spring weather and spend some time outdoors enjoying nature. Whether it’s a leisurely stroll through a local park, a picnic in the sunshine, or simply sitting and admiring the beauty of blooming flowers, spending time in nature can be refreshing and rejuvenating for expectant surrogates.
  6. Reflect and Give Thanks: Take some quiet time to reflect. Whether through prayer, meditation, or journaling, expressing gratitude for this special season of life can help you feel connected to the true meaning of Easter, regardless of your role in your intended parents’ journey to parenthood.

By embracing the spirit of Easter and finding creative ways to celebrate, you can make this holiday season a memorable and meaningful one for you and your family.

If you have any questions about surrogacy or are interested in becoming a surrogate, please contact Shared Conception at 713-622-1144.

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Ways to Avoid Going Stir Crazy on Bedrest

bed restBed rest is often recommended in various medical situations. For instance, many fertility clinics advise surrogates to observe 48-72 hours of bed rest post-transfer to ensure the safety of the embryo. Pregnant individuals may also be advised to extend this period due to specific medical conditions. While the idea of bed rest sounds appealing initially, it can become monotonous over time. At first, it might be enjoyable catching up on social media, emails, or reading that long-awaited book. However, the novelty wears off quickly.

Here are ten suggestions for passing the time:

  1. Netflix or Other Streaming Services: Dive into a plethora of shows on any one of the many available streaming services that are now available.
  2. Video Calls: Stay connected with friends and family through FaceTime, Skype, Facebook Messenger, or WhatsApp, ensuring good lighting for virtual conversations.
  3. Food Delivery Apps: If meal-prep wasn’t feasible, look into food delivery apps such as DoorDash and Uber Eats so you can still enjoy your favorite meals from local restaurants without leaving your bed.
  4. Reading: Lose yourself in the world of books, a timeless pastime that requires only your imagination. You can also opt for audiobooks through apps like Audible, or if you have a Spotify Premium plan, you get 15 hours of free audiobook credits per month.
  5. Tablet Time: Explore the vast realm of the internet, from Pinterest’s endless inspiration to engaging games and informative apps.
  6. Pamper Yourself: Treat yourself to small indulgences that bring comfort and joy during your downtime.
  7. Naps: Embrace the opportunity for daytime naps, but be mindful of excessive napping affecting nighttime sleep.
  8. Online Shopping: Exercise caution while indulging in online shopping, using it for research or creating wishlists for future purchases.

Regardless of how you choose to spend your time, prioritize comfort and relaxation. If you have any questions about your surrogacy journey, please don’t hesitate to contact  Shared Conception at 713-622-1144.

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5 Surrogacy Myths Explained

surrogacy mythsThere are many misconceptions and myths when it comes to surrogacy. We wanted to address some of those and help educate people about surrogacy and how it all works.

Myth #1: The Surrogate is the Mother

In gestational surrogacy, an embryo is formed through in vitro fertilization (IVF) using the intended parents’ or donors’ egg and sperm. This embryo is then transferred to the uterus of the gestational carrier. The gestational carrier is not biologically linked to the child and lacks legal parental rights. Legal contracts safeguard the surrogate from any legal obligations toward the child. Surrogates view their role as assisting the intended parents in building their family, devoid of a maternal relationship with the child.

Myth #2: Surrogates Are in it For the Money

Surrogates are compassionate individuals driven by the desire to contribute to another person’s family. They undergo a thorough screening process, and endure physical changes, discomfort, and health risks during the surrogacy journey. Compensation is intended to cover any pain, suffering, and time devoted to the process. Contrary to the belief that surrogates are motivated solely by financial gain, their compensation is often insufficient when considering the extensive time commitment and sacrifices involved. They truly want to help others on the journey to starting a family.

Myth #3: Your Surrogate Will Want to Keep Your Baby

A common fear in surrogacy is the notion that the surrogate might want to keep the baby. However, surrogates enter into the arrangement with a clear understanding of the child’s parentage. Rigorous screening, including mental health evaluations, ensures their comprehension of surrogacy dynamics. Legal contracts further protect all parties, establishing parental rights well before birth. For surrogates, witnessing the intended parents hold their child for the first time is often the most cherished aspect of the process. Mental health screenings, background checks, and legal matters are just a few reasons why it’s important you use a surrogacy agency to help you through the surrogate process.

Myth #4: A Woman Will Choose to Hire a Surrogate Because She Just Doesn’t Want to Be Pregnant

Contrary to the concept of ‘social surrogacy,’ where a woman supposedly hires a surrogate without medical need, such instances are rare. The decision to opt for surrogacy is typically a result of significant personal challenges, including multiple failed attempts at conception. It is a deeply emotional and expensive choice, often considered as a last resort after enduring considerable pain and loss. Also, in the state of Texas, the law requires medical need for surrogacy.

Myth #5: Parents Will Have Trouble Bonding with Their Baby Born via Surrogacy

Bonding with a baby born via surrogacy can begin during the pregnancy. Positive relationships with the surrogate mother are encouraged, involving attendance at doctor’s appointments and other activities. Intended parents can actively engage by having the surrogate play recordings of their voices for the baby, promoting familiarity. Research suggests that bonding is nurtured more by post-delivery emotional attachment than merely carrying the child. Each parent may bond with the baby at different times, emphasizing the importance of building emotional connections soon after delivery.

If you are interested in surrogacy or have any questions, please don’t hesitate to contact us at Shared Conception. You can visit our website at https://sharedconception.com/contact/ or call us at 713-622-1144.

Why Couples Choose Surrogacy

Pregnancy presents a lot of unique challenges and may not be possible for everyone. When faced with fertility or pregnancy challenges, the idea of surrogacy may come into consideration. Pregnancy can bring about various complications for some individuals:

  1. Infertility: Dealing with infertility has led to numerous groundbreaking techniques and medical interventions for achieving pregnancy. However, the exhaustive nature of continuous reproductive treatments can be mentally and physically draining. In such cases, deciding to choose surrogacy becomes a viable option.
  2. Reproductive Issues: Certain reproductive issues can hinder women from attempting conception. Rare conditions like the absence of a uterus eliminate the possibility of conception. Uterine structural problems, such as a septate uterus, can affect the ability to conceive or carry to term, presenting potential risks.
  3. Other Medical Problems: Various health issues can pose risks to both gestation and the fetus. Conditions like anemia, diabetes, high blood pressure, and chronic migraines may lead to complications such as preeclampsia, preterm birth, or placental abruption. While not all health problems pose a high risk, they might contribute to recurrent miscarriages, prompting consideration of surrogacy.
  4. Prescription Medication Interactions and Risks: Some prospective parents discover that certain medications they take can pose risks during pregnancy. While monitoring effects or switching to safer alternatives may be options for some, others, due to life-saving medications, may be advised against a risky pregnancy. In such cases, choosing surrogacy is a valid and responsible decision.
  5. Same-Sex Couples and Surrogacy: Surrogacy serves as a fantastic family-building option for same-sex couples and LGBTQ+ individuals seeking a biological connection to their child.
  6. Decision-Making Process: There is no one-size-fits-all answer to the decision of choosing surrogacy as a parenting option. Every individual embarks on a different path to this decision. Seeking advice from those knowledgeable about the intricacies of this decision-making process is crucial.

If you are interested in surrogacy, we are here to help you. You can visit our Surrogacy FAQs page or contact us at any time, and our team at Shared Conception will answer any questions you have. Visit our website at https://sharedconception.com/contact/ or call us at 713-622-1144.

 

tips for healthy pregnancy

Tips on How to Have a Healthy Pregnancy as a Surrogate

tips for healthy pregnancySurrogacy offers a wonderful opportunity for individuals to assist a couple in starting their family while also earning additional income for purposes such as paying off student loans, initiating a retirement fund, or securing the down payment for a first home. Typically, women interested in becoming surrogates are in their 20s, 30s, and early 40s and provide a crucial service for couples facing challenges in conceiving naturally.

Maintaining optimal health throughout the entire pregnancy is essential to ensure a successful outcome and deliver a healthy baby for the intended parents. Here are some recommended guidelines:

  • Take prescribed prenatal vitamins and medications: Your doctor may advise taking prenatal vitamins and other medications before and during the surrogacy pregnancy.
  • Regular communication with intended parents: Sharing your pregnancy progress with the intended parents is encouraged. Arranging regular visits, dinner dates, and other meetings can strengthen the connection if feasible.
  • Modify household chores: Avoid heavy lifting, using step stools, climbing ladders, and exposure to chemical-based cleaning products or changing litter boxes. Seek assistance from friends or family if needed.
  • Wear comfortable clothing and shoes: Adapt to your changing body by investing in comfortable attire and footwear as your baby bump grows.
  • Monitor weight gain: Your doctor will guide you on appropriate weight gain. Regular monitoring between visits ensures a healthy pregnancy trajectory.
  • Continue exercising: Maintain your regular exercise routine with adjustments for pregnancy, exploring safe options to stay active.

Avoid the following:

  • Skipping meals: Consume the right amount of food each day, with regular meals and snacks to support a healthy pregnancy.
  • Alcohol consumption: Refrain from drinking alcohol, as it can harm the fetus and lead to birth defects.
  • Smoking, tobacco, or vaping: Eliminate these habits, as they can impact birth weights and contribute to potential defects in the baby.
  • Taking medications or vitamins without doctor approval: Obtain approval from your doctor before using prescription drugs, over-the-counter medications, or vitamin supplements.

By adhering to these guidelines and attending regular doctor visits, you increase the likelihood of delivering a healthy baby for the intended parents. For more information on surrogacy or becoming a surrogate, give Shared Conception a call today!

 

Tips for Communicating with Your Surrogate

Tips for Communicating with Your Surrogate

As first-time intended parents just starting your surrogacy journey, you may be curious about the best ways to foster communication between you and your surrogate. There are many forms of communication that you can choose from. It’s essential to have an open discussion with your surrogate to discuss items such as the preferred type of communication, the frequency of communication, and any other matters related to keeping one another informed.

Specify Your Desired Level of Communication

Prior to selecting a surrogate, it’s essential to determine how frequently you wish to communicate with them. This information will be communicated to the surrogate so they can agree or set their own boundaries. Some individuals may only seek communication around the time of appointments, though they will still receive updates from their caseworkers. Hearing information directly from the surrogate can provide a sense of reassurance for them.

On the other hand, some people desire more regular updates directly from the surrogate. The amount of communication ultimately depends on the comfort levels and preferences of everyone involved.

Maintain a Positive Communication Approach

Consider the tone and manner of communication during your conversations. Strive to keep your exchanges positive and constructive. Avoid engaging in angry or sad conversations, especially when dealing with sensitive issues – let the agency and caseworkers handle more intense discussions. While it’s crucial to share necessary information, particularly from the agency, try to convey it in a manner that encourages a positive and supportive environment.

Be Clear and Concise in Your Communication

During this challenging period, clarity is of utmost importance in your communications. It might be beneficial to outline a list of topics you wish to cover before composing an email or engaging in a phone conversation. This approach can help streamline discussions, minimizing the need for multiple calls.

Be Mindful of the Surrogate’s personal Responsibilities

Surrogates have their own spouses, children, work, family obligations, etc., so be respectful of their time and give them grace if you don’t hear back from a call, email, or text right away. Just know that you and the baby are always on their mind and important to them.

If you are interested in surrogacy or have any questions, please don’t hesitate to contact us at Shared Conception. You can visit our website at https://sharedconception.com/contact/ or call us at 713-622-1144.

Intimacy During Surrogacy

Intimacy During Surrogacy

Surrogacy is a wonderful journey, allowing individuals or couples to experience the joy of parenthood when faced with challenges in conceiving. However, being a surrogate comes with certain responsibilities and guidelines, including considerations about one’s intimate life.

One important aspect of being a surrogate is the need for abstinence from sexual activity for a specific period before and after the embryo transfer. Typically, surrogates are advised to abstain from sex for at least two weeks before and after the transfer. This precaution is essential to optimize the chances of a successful transfer and ensure the well-being of both the surrogate and the developing embryo.

After a successful embryo transfer, surrogates can resume their normal sex life. It’s crucial to follow the guidelines provided in the surrogacy contract if there are any. The contract may outline specific guidelines regarding the duration of abstinence and other relevant aspects of sexual activity.

The surrogacy contract is a legal and binding agreement that outlines the expectations and responsibilities of both the surrogate and the intended parents. It’s essential for surrogates to carefully review and adhere to the terms related to their sexual life. Some contracts may stipulate longer periods of abstinence, depending on the preferences of the intended parents and the guidance of medical professionals.

Surrogacy agencies, such as Shared Conception, play a crucial role in facilitating the surrogacy process. It’s highly advisable for surrogates to engage in open communication with their surrogacy agency and clarify any questions regarding sexual activity during the surrogacy journey.

The Shared Conception team is here to answer any of your questions you may have regarding surrogacy, the process and what the requirements are. If you have any questions or are interested in becoming a surrogate mother, please contact us here at Shared Conception or call us at 713-622-1144.

benefits of surrogacy

Benefits of Choosing Surrogacy

Have you been contemplating using surrogacy as a means to expand your family? If so, you’re not alone. Surrogacy is gaining traction worldwide, and more individuals are viewing it as the best option when they are unable to conceive naturally.

Let’s look at some of the advantages of choosing surrogacy:

  1. Planning for When You are Ready: Utilizing surrogacy to start a family allows for planning the pregnancy to a certain extent. Whether you’re coordinating with life events or aiming for a specific time of the year to have a child, you can establish a general timeline and strive to align with it. While surprises can still occur, you have some ability to guide the process.
  2. Parenting From Birth: If having children naturally isn’t possible, adoption is a wonderful way to become a parent, but it has its constraints. In adoption, the child is typically older, and you miss the experience of bonding with a child from their infancy. With surrogacy, you ensure the opportunity to be there from day one, experiencing the initial smiles, laughter, and milestones. However, both adoption and surrogacy are great options for starting your family.
  3. The Pregnancy Journey: Unlike adoption or other paths to parenthood, surrogacy provides the pregnancy experience. Although you’re not carrying the pregnancy, you still get to witness sonograms, hear the heartbeat, and anticipate the journey to becoming a parent.
  4. Biological Parenthood: If having a biological child is important to you, the only way, apart from giving birth, is through surrogacy. Sustaining a bloodline and passing on genetic traits holds significant value for many individuals, including same-sex couples. Surrogacy allows you to use your own sperm and eggs if they are viable, or you can opt for donors for one or both components.
  5. Empowerment and Control: Uncertainty and high costs often lead individuals to discontinue infertility treatments. The unpredictability can take a toll on their lives, causing them to abandon the pursuit. Surrogacy offers a sense of control. You make crucial decisions, such as selecting a donor egg source, determining when the pregnancy occurs, choosing the surrogate, and more. Your journey toward parenthood begins with taking charge and collaborating with a surrogacy agency.

 

If you are interested in becoming a surrogate mother or finding a surrogate, we are here to help you. You can contact us at any time, and our team at Shared Conception will answer any questions you have. Visit our website at https://sharedconception.com/contact/ or call us at 713-622-1144.